I use ActiveMQ because RabbitMQ have stopped giving the support for AMQP 1.0 or above version and the earlier version of AMQP doesn't give the functionality to support OAuth.
If OAuth is not required and we can go with AMQP 0.9 then i still recommend rabbitMq.
Kafka was only introduced to our platform in August 2018 as a means to manage our data pipeline and to replace other messaging systems used to decouple various components in our system. Kafka provides the scale and storage we need to manage data for however many devices we might service. Additionally, Kafka has helped us lay the framework for improved and highly detailed statistics gathering and analysis.